Hope your week is going well. This past week has been a mixture for me, but a definite trend throughout it has been some great conversations. I am getting some treasured time with family and friends here in Arkansas, and meaningful conversations have made it that much more special.
This week I have several great reads for you from across the blogosphere.
So without further ado…
I have come to believe that a woman’s character is not just formed by the roles she plays or the job she has or where she’s from or what has happened to her. A woman’s character is most profoundly shaped by the daily habits she keeps. And this is hopeful to me, because it’s never too late to adopt a habit or two from a woman we admire. ~ Glennon Doyle Melton
This video series of Glennon on the OWN show this past week blew me away. It is a must read and the videos are a MUST-WATCH. She shares some really valuable insights that she gained from researching the lives of strong women around her. Two concepts that I walked away impacted by the most were the ideas of “not finding my identity in my roles” and “choosing the next right thing.” To find out more about those concepts, please go listen to Glennon’s beautiful message.
I have been told that my own idealism about parenting is not so different from the idealism of my parents. After all, they adopted the teachings they did because they wanted so badly to raise my siblings and I correctly—to turn out perfect children. They thought they had found the perfect formula. But I do not claim to have found a perfect formula. I do not claim that my children will have perfect childhoods, or that I will turn out perfect children. Refusing to repeat the toxic patterns of my parents’ parenting is not idealism. It is realism—and compassion. ~ Libby Anne
Libby Anne is a writer I can often identify with, as being a woman who grew up in that extremely patriarchal, conservative, homeschooling world and wanting something different than what it offered for a family and lifestyle model. I do not have children yet, but one of my greatest fears of parenting ties into this very subject — if parent’s can love you so much and fully believe they are making the best of decisions for you and still end up hurting you in the process — what hope is there for ever being a truly good parent? I thought that Libby Anne addressed some of that fear with this article this week. One thing I am fortunate to have is parents who have learned to listen, to change, to continually adapt their parenting model — so much so that my siblings are having an entirely different experience than I had as a child growing up. I am so grateful for parents that model this kind of humility and spirit of learning. And yet there are still things I wish to do and will do differently some day. I am learning again and again, that just because I see something differently or choose to do something differently doesn’t mean that I am betraying those I love or mean that it is inherently bad. Different and Bad are really not the same — as much as I believed they were growing up.
The gift of darkness draws you to know God’s presence beyond what thought, imagination, or sensory feeling can comprehend. During the dark night the tried-and-true rituals and creeds of religion no longer satisfy or bring assurances of God’s love. (So you might get bored with church services for very good reasons too, but that is not the same as mere spiritual laziness or a lack of faith.) ~ Richard Rohr (over at Peter Enn’s site for a Daily Devotion.)
This devotion spoke so much to me in just a few short words. When I had grown so accustomed to experiencing faith and my relationship with God for so many years in one way, it has been a long, difficult journey through change and never finding a similar feeling again. But if I am waiting on that, perhaps I am missing the point.
I am frequently asked why I’m willing to subscribe to titles that carry so much baggage with them. And let’s just be frank here, I am not blind. I can see full well the hesitancy and skepticism that creep into people’s expressions when I identify with the “isms” tied to feminist & egalitarian ideologies. And by in large, I get it: feminist is a loaded term in our day and age. Every wave has come with its martyrs and man-haters. There is so much baggage to unpack and sort through. Dare add the word Christian before the word feminist [Thank you Sarah Bessey] and at the very least you can expect to find yourself navigating through a sea of quizzical expressions and head-scratching, if not a full-fledged fight.
But as with the majority of things we fear, a lack of understanding can almost always be found at the base, camped firmly in protest with all its deeply rooted prejudices ready to defend and throw stones. ~ Cayla Pruett
This post by Cayla over at the Junia Project was beautifully written. Since having discovered Feminist voices (both Christian and otherwise) as well as voices who support Egalitarian marriage, I have so appreciated the work that the Junia Project does. In making their works available to us, they have only continued to educate individuals on the value in both Feminism and Egalitarian marriage, and they do so within a platform of the church where it is greatly needed.
How many times has someone begun a conversation with me about Game of Thrones or The Walking Dead or Mad Men or Flight of the Conchordsonly to find out I’ve never watched one of those shows? The most common response to my revelation is “You’re kidding,” followed by abject disappointment. It’s happened a lot. A LOT.
But we can’t consume everything. Where would we put it? ~ Jason Boyett
This post was more for fun, as I am glad I am not the only out there with gaping holes in my Pop-Culture Knowledge. But I guess that’s what happens when you disconnect from most forms of pop culture for 13 years. I have had countless numbers of conversations with people where I have to explain that “No, I haven’t seen this or that movie, or heard of this song” because it is still on my long, never-ending catch up list. This is where #homeschoolerproblems would probably be appropriate.
Anyways, those are some great reads and videos I have to recommend this week.
- What have you been writing about this week?
- What are some daily habits that empower you?
- What are some lessons you are learning from your own childhood that have shaped how you parent or will parent in the future?
- What is an issue that you must take a side on versus one you find yourself more on the fence on?