Good Morning Readers,
This morning I started my day with yoga. This is one of my favorite ways to start the day, as it helps me to stop, be still, and breathe.
Drinking my morning cup of coffee or two is also another favorite aspect of the morning.
For the next few weeks I am on my much looked forward to summer vacation. So with that in mind, the links I have to share with you today often center around ideas, thoughts, advice, and reminders of how I want to use this time.
I hope you enjoy them or find a treasure among them to incorporate into your week or summer plans or holiday — whatever may be ahead of you.
Words, Thoughts, and Voices for the Week
Things that worry you.
Jesus warned us that not a single person has added a minute to their life by worrying- but yet we do it anyway (I myself am especially good at this). One way to address it is by a more holistic approach to sabbath keeping: for myself, I’ve been trying to practice “no work, no commerce, and no worries” on the day I practice sabbath keeping. What’s the thing that worries you most? Set aside one day a week where you purposely do nothing about it and do your best to avoid thinking about it. ~ Benjamin Corey
Benjamin shares some insightful and practical reminders of how to take a break and avoid burnout in our lives and in our faith. Number 3 especially spoke to me as I tend to be an anxious worrier. Yoga is one of those mediums for me to have a time and space where I can intentionally work on setting those worries aside and releasing any built up tension and anxiety.
Embrace What’s Different.
Every location has its own flavor. Don’t dismiss it. Get into it. That’s the culture of the place, if you try to understand it and experience it, chances are you’ll have a better time. ~ Alondra Rogers
This post is for my mil spouse readers especially, but even if you aren’t and find yourself in a location that is less than desirable for a season these practical and wise reminders are good to be mindful of. Number 6 is one I needed to be reminded of this week. This new base location has looked so different than my last. Oftentimes I have found myself criticizing and unhappily comparing them, but perhaps I need to just embrace the difference to better understand it and gain a new perspective.
Happy couples are not couples that don’t fight. Rather they’re couples that fight fair, and take responsibility for their own words and actions, no matter how furious they may feel inside. ~ Harriet Lerner
Harriet Lerner’s book The Dance of Anger opened my eyes to a completely different perspective of anger, its various expressions, its purpose, and its usefulness. This post reminded me of one of the stronger aspects of my marriage that has saved us heartache when we fight with it in mind and hurt us the most when we abandon it for unaltered emotion. For so long I thought any fight was a sign of terrible impending doom. Now I am learning however that they are often a necessary and needed part of learning better how to communicate, love, respect, and hear each other. To really accomplish this though it has helped us to fight fair by not going for the cheap easy shots in the heat of the moment.
Kids develop longer attention spans.
When too many toys are introduced into a child’s life, their attention span will begin to suffer. A child will rarely learn to fully appreciate the toy in front of them when there are countless options still remaining on the shelf behind them. ~ Joshua Becker
I love Joshua Becker’s blog Becoming Minimalist. This post reminded me of some thoughts and advice I was learning from my friend I spent time with over the weekend. She has two young girls under the age of 4 and she and I were discussing our various experiences and observations about children and the number of toys they have. I really appreciated what Joshua had to say about how limiting the number of toys your kids have can actually benefit them. Not in a selfish-I-don’t-want-my-kid-to-have-fun way, but to truly want your kid to have the chance to learn how to truly appreciate something and to know what truly brings them joy. This is still hard for me to know as an adult. Too often I just consume what feels good in the moment, not stopping to think or be intentional about bringing into my life what brings me lasting joy and value versus a temporary fix. For readers with kids, I hope you enjoy this and for those of you like me who want them someday, I think this a great one to add to the “for when I have kids” save file. Or am I the only one who has one of those?
But no matter the label, the root is the idea that children are people too, and that as people, they can grow and learn and develop best in an atmosphere of peace and connection, not punishment or coercion. We seek to validate our children’s emotions while teaching them how to appropriately express them. Traits that define how peaceful parents interact with their children include empathy, compassion, respect, boundaries, and unconditional love. This philosophy is based in the most recent findings of science, psychology, human development, and sociology. Contrary to popular belief, non-punitive parenting is not permissive parenting. We still set limits and uphold them, we let natural consequences teach life lessons, and above all, we keep a healthy emotional connection with our kids that will be the foundation of everything we do. This is not a “parenting method” with formulas and rules, but more of a philosophy and value set that different parents put into practice in many different ways. ~ Darcy Anne at Homeschoolers Anonymous
Speaking of parenting articles worth saving, this one is a gold mine of wisdom and resources! Whenever I do think about having children of our own, I often find myself weighing how both my husband and I were raised, the merits of the various parenting styles and wisdom we have observed and been taught, and continually question what parts of them will I want to carry on some day. Both of us experienced corporal punishment. Neither of us would say we felt abused by any means, and yet I still wonder could there still be a different approach? A better approach? For so long I thought that no physical discipline meant no discipline and frustrating permissiveness. But perhaps it doesn’t. Check some of these resources out to see what you think.
If I’m in that place I become lost in the words, as though I go inside them for a while before coming up for deep breaths. It’s the place in my writing that I’m drawn to. where I get goosebumps because I know there’s something there worth exploring.
“The heat” can’t be created. It’s a place a writer arrives at without direction and it comes through writing and writing some more. You’ll recognize it if you reflect on something you’ve written and there’s a specific part that you feel excited about. That’s the place to work from—that’s the heat. ~ Claire de Boer
Love, love, loved this piece by Claire. As a writer myself, I am always looking for good advice and reminders of how to build and hone my craft. For those of you who love to write, make sure to check this one out!
Some Podcasts Worth Subscribing too:
I discovered both of these this past week. They have been so encouraging and inspiring to listen to!
1. The Slow Home Podcast ~ Brooke McAlary
2. The Mind Palace ~ Jessica Lynn Williams and Melissa Cain
Upcoming Series Update:
This past weekend I took my mini vacation out of town, so my plan is to get the new series up and running later this week. We shall see. 🙂
Alright that’s all for now folks. Enjoy the rest of your week and hope you have a lovely Tuesday!