Townhall: A Menagerie of Things

Posted By Kallie C on Mar 18, 2015 | 0 comments

Hey Lovelies.

This week’s Townhall is full of good things, hard things, needs-to-be-heard things, and so much more!

As always I want to hear from you too! Feel free to post a link of your own or some thoughts in the comments!


For My Fellow Homeschool Alums:

When I walked away from fundamentalism and the homeschool world, I didn’t just leave my old friends behind. I left behind a whole different set of traditions and norms. I have no roots. ~ Lana Hope

So much truth in this post. Lana Hope candidly expressed the raw emotion often involved with realizing how disconnected you feel from your childhood roots when they have been severed, as many of us have had to do in order to move on with our lives. I am fortunate to still have some connections to my childhood with a select few friends and a supportive family, but in this I know I am a rare exception. So many I know have had to lose so much more. Having to lose any of it, only to realize the rest of the world has no clue as to what you are dealing with is one of the hardest realizations any of us coming out of this crazy world have to continually face.

The truth is, we didn’t literally live in a hole. But sometimes it feels like it. Unlike Kimmy, no one came to rescue us. We crawled our way out of those holes, those cults, that abuse. We had only the tiniest glimpse that there might be light and freedom ahead. There was no welcoming party waiting for most of us — we did it on our own. ~ Micah J. Murray

I am glad to know that I am not the only one who has gotten drawn into this new Netflix show lately. It’s like a train wreck that I can’t pull my eyes from. Sometimes unbearably cheesey and over-the-top in it’s portrayal of these mole women, but then it hits me every time that the even freakier thing is its not really that far from the truth. Whether it’s the crazy long hair, the homemade dresses, the lack of education, the lack of pop culture understanding — oh it hits way too close to home. Micah in his notable voice reminds us all of not only the hard work involved with moving on, but also the strength and resiliency so many of us have managed to find. We too can be unbreakable.


For My Military Family:

This poem is powerful. Watch it. It gave me chills. I won’t spoil it.


For Matters of Faith:

I think all of us have placed our trust in something that failed us. And while it might be easy at this point as your preacher to suggest the solution to this is to just “trust Jesus more”, that feels perilously close to placing our trust in our ability to place our trust in Jesus and then we are right back where we started. ~ Nadia Bolz-Weber

Nadia always has a way of speaking to me right in the middle of my doubts and cynicism. She just has an uncanny way of moving past religious platitudes I so easily roll my eyes at these days and goes for gentle (or not gentle), but powerful truth. So much of my faith for so long was me “trusting in my ability to place my trust in Jesus and to have a really strong faith…” turns out that isn’t strong faith that is just a really strong performance. There is a difference. It is humbling to learn that there is after years of believing you were well on your way, but now I am just grateful someone can find a way to still get the truth of Christ and His life to me, all the way back here on that back bench I’ve found myself on for some time.

Below are some things that help, some things that hurt, a few simple thoughts on how you can stand alongside someone in the midst of a faith shift. There are some ways of engaging that do, indeed, help; at the same time, it’s good to consider things that could possibly hurt, too. ~ Kathy Escobar

If you have gone through or find yourself going through a shift in your faith, I highly recommend picking up a copy of Faith Shift by Kathy Escobar. It was spot on and helped me to really understand the process I have been going through and let me know that I wasn’t the only one going through it either. This post she shares on her blog is an excellent list of helpful things and hurtful things. I identified with several of them.

For All the Women I Love:

Emma wanted to steal. Many of us do. We wander through the supermarket aisles of somebody else’s self-esteem, helping ourselves to whatever we find along the way. We don’t want what we take; we take it because we want to take. The value lies in the act. ~Priya-Alika Elias

This post spoke to me so much this past week. How we find our own sense of self-worth and security is very telling by merely considering how we treat the other women in our lives, whether we know them well or merely encounter them as we go about our day. It is so easy to judge, to take, and to fall prey to that lie that there is only so much of “enough” to go around. The lie of scarcity is so dangerous.

I wrote about this some more in my post this week.

When I listen to the voices telling me to reign it in; to give up dreams of being good at more than one role; that wanting more for myself and other women is somehow unrealistic and selfish; that the woman over there that is obviously not me must have it better off or figured out; that I need to somehow make myself smaller in mind, body, or ambition—when I listen to these lies I begin to project those lies on every other woman I encounter, even the ones I know and love. ~ Kallie Culver


For My Soul:

Wholeness does not mean perfection: It means embracing brokenness as an integral part of life. ~ Parker J. Palmer

This piece inspired me to enjoy and embrace the practice of writing more. It also made me wish to be more of a morning person. Why can’t I just enjoy getting up earlier? I always enjoy it once I actually get up and get coffee, but until then why does that bed have to be so darn cozy? I always end up staying so long that I have to rush out of bed to get started on my day, versus having time to sit and meditate on beauty such as these words spoke of.

 We all know how to maintain our physical health and how to practice dental hygiene, right? We’ve known it since we were five years old. But what do we know about maintaining our psychological health? Well, nothing. What do we teach our children about emotional hygiene?Nothing. How is it that we spend more time taking care of our teeth than we do our minds. Why is it that our physical health is so much more important to us than our psychological health? ~ Guy Winch

This Ted Video struck me this week with its humorous, but oh so relevant truth. Why do we wait till often its far too late to find courage to reach out and ask for help from a mental health professional? Why do we stigmatize needing help in this area so much? I know I have. I am learning though that it is not a sign of weakness to reach out and ask for help, it is a sign of strength.


For My Home:

This is a genius idea.

Check this out just to see how she put outlets in her bathroom drawers. I wonder if I can figure out how to do that in my bathroom?  Maybe then my hair dryer, straightener, and curling iron wouldn’t get left sprawling over the entire counter… Maybe…


And That’s All For Now Folks…