Guidelines


The Nuts and Bolts of Untold Stories – Themes and Policies

 

In sharing my stories, I am on a journey of learning what it means to be vulnerable. To me that means sharing about where I have come from, where life has taken me, and what I am learning along the way. I want readers who share their stories to feel free to join me in doing the same. However in doing that I also believe it is important in this public forum to share stories that have been processed, learned from, and now mean something.

 

In regards to a practical guide of what that looks like, I turn to someone I consider to be an expert on Vulnerability and Storytelling, Dr. Brene Brown. Here I have listed some thoughts she shares in her recent work, “Daring Greatly” on how to be vulnerable in a public, online forum without oversharing.

 

First, I only share stories or experiences that I’ve worked through and feel that I can share from solid ground. I don’t share what I define as “intimate” stories, nor do I share stories that are fresh wounds.

 

Second…sharing yourself to teach or move a process forward can be healthy and effective, but disclosing information as a way to work through your personal stuff is inappropriate and unethical.

 

Last, I only share when I have no unmet needs that I’m trying to fill…being vulnerable with a larger audience is only a good idea if the healing is tied to the sharing, not to the expectations I might have for the response I get. (Daring Greatly, pp. 161-162)

 

The vision of Untold Stories is the chance to be vulnerable, to be honest, to be brave. Untold Stories seeks to create a space for stories that speak with value and purpose, not futile ranting or naïve over-sharing.

 

I also have family that I love, cherish, and honor, and many friends through many seasons of life that I do not intend to attack or play the blame game with. The process of moving out, growing up, and navigating the process of becoming an adult with my own individual beliefs and understanding of life has often been very difficult to figure out how to do without having to choose between being honest to my self or loyal to those I love and who have loved me. It is a tight rope that I am still to this day learning how to walk, and I have fallen off of many times. If you know me personally, please explore through this site knowing that I am continually learning the balance between the freedom of truth and the healing found through forgiveness and grace. I am not perfect and will never claim to be, and neither is life. Life is full of stories and encounters with other people who aren’t perfect either.

Hence, why we all have our Untold Stories…

 

Common Story Themes:

 

This site is built around the purpose for people to share their life stories in a safe place. Common topics and themes will stem first from my personal experience and where I have found my own voice. However, I do not want to limit it to that, so where I do not feel I have enough experience or expertise to share, I will be asking other authors to contribute.

Some common topics you will find discussed here include but are not limited to:

 

Faith. Doubt. Christianity.

Feminism.

Homosexuality

Home-schooling.

Abuse.

Racism. Social Justice.

Vulnerability.

Motherhood, Parenting, and Working.

Military Life.

Military Spouse Careers. 

Simple Living.

 

Storytelling Parameters and Site Policies:

 

For practical purposes and for everyone’s safety involved I want to be very clear and up front about what this site’s policies are concerning story-telling, commenting, and privacy.

 

First of all, whether sharing a story through a submission or a comment, please remember that this site is public. Please do not share anything that you are not comfortable with being completely public. Please also keep that in mind when using personal information such as people’s names, locations, and events that affect other people. Basically if you are comfortable with anyone knowing it, then feel free to share it, otherwise choose your words wisely and change names or limit details if needed for the sake of privacy of those involved.

As the editor and owner of this website, I reserve the right to review, ask for changes, moderate, or reject stories that I feel merit privacy infringement concerns.

 

Comment Policy:

 

Commenting is available to anyone, however I reserve the right to moderate or remove any comment that I find to be hurtful, disrespectful, or damaging to the conversation and respectful environment Untold Stories purposes to create.

Ranting, trolling, discriminating, or religious bashing will not be tolerated in any form.

Comments that include profanity directed in a personal degrading manner towards other conversation participants will be deleted.

Comments that attack other readers in any form will be deleted.

Comments with several links will be subject to review and will be deleted if considered spam.

You will notice to comment it requires you to sign in. If you are not willing or able to sign your name and own your comment, this is not the time or the place to be sharing.

Other then that all I ask is for conversations conducted with respect and professionalism.

 

 

If you don’t like what you read, don’t waste your time or mine by trying to needlessly convince me otherwise or leaving hurtful comments. Genuine questions and constructive feedback, however is welcome! If you have concerns or personal questions for me that include specifics about me, my family, my friends, or my life please consider the fact that this is a public website and email me first before putting it in a public comment.

I reserve the right to remove any comment that I believe infringes on my privacy or anyone else close to me.

 

The purpose of this site is to create a safe and engaging forum for people to share their stories and find healing, inspiration, and encouragement through the experience.

 

Privacy Policy:

 

This policy is valid from May 2014

I will not share personal information with third-parties nor will I store information collected from your visit to this blog for use other than to analyze content performance through the use of cookies. This can be controlled or changed through your Internet browser’s settings. Ultimately I cannot guarantee the safety of your personal information, so do not post anything on this site that you do not feel safe posting.

I am not responsible for any republishing of the content found on this blog on other Web sites or media without my permission.

This blog is a personal blog written and edited by me, or authors I invite to contribute.

If and when any compensation is received, it will never influence the content, topics or posts made in this blog. All advertising is in the form of advertisements generated by a third party ad network. Those advertisements will be identified as paid advertisements.

The owner of this blog is not compensated to provide opinion on products, services, websites and various other topics. The views and opinions expressed on this blog are purely the blog owner’s or invited authors. If we claim or appear to be experts on a certain topic or product or service area, we will only endorse products or services that we believe, based on our expertise, are worthy of such endorsement. Any product claim, statistic, quote or other representation about a product or service should be verified with the manufacturer or provider.

This privacy policy is subject to change without notice.

 

Sources:
http://weblogs.about.com/od/partsofablog/qt/SampleBlogPrivacyPolicy.htm
http://weblogs.about.com/od/partsofablog/qt/CommentPolicy.htm
http://john.do/create-comment-policy/
http://www.disclosurepolicy.org